An increasing number of Indian and Indian-Australian women are exploring a once-unthinkable solution to intimate dissatisfaction: hiring male escorts. This trend is a powerful indicator of the evolving identity of the modern Indian woman abroad. It speaks to her increasing economic independence, her growing assertiveness in claiming personal happiness,
Throughout my journey, I have had the privilege of connecting with women from diverse backgrounds. A significant number of them were of Indian origin—some born here and others who immigrated from India. Our conversations often revealed a common thread: much like in other Asian cultures, open discussions about sex are frequently considered taboo. This cultural silence leads many women to consciously deprive themselves of sexual pleasure and fulfillment.
I spoke with single women, married women, and those in relationships. Without exception, I found the Indian women I met to be incredibly good-hearted, respectful, kind, and wonderful company. To converse with them is a genuine pleasure; their warmth and depth are a testament to their incredible character as people. It was therefore deeply moving to learn that so many of them experienced unsatisfying sex lives or a complete lack of intimacy in their relationships. For years, even decades, they endure this deprivation.
However, recently a quiet revolution is taking place. A growing number of Indian women hiring male escorts. This movement is less about physical gratification and more about autonomy, safety, and a reclamation of space in a world that has historically policed female sexuality. Unfortunately in male dominated society, women were expected to be passive recipients, their sexuality often tied to marriage, reproduction, and their partner’s needs. The concept of a woman actively seeking pleasure for herself was, and in many circles still is, taboo.
So, what is driving this change among Indian Women?
- Many Indian women turning to this service are high-achieving professionals—CEOs, entrepreneurs, lawyers, and artists. Their lives are often time-poor and filled with immense responsibility. The modern dating scene, with its ambiguities, emotional labour, and often judgmental undertones, can feel exhausting. Hiring a companion offers a transaction built on clarity. There are no games, no hidden agendas, and no expectations beyond the agreed-upon terms. It is a conscious choice to prioritise their own pleasure without the emotional baggage of a complicated relationship.
- For all women navigating intimacy, safety is a paramount concern. The fear of judgment, violence, or having a private moment exposed is a real and constant anxiety. Reputable male escorts and masseurs provide a vetted, discreet, and safe environment. These professionals understand the need for confidentiality and respect boundaries in a way that a random encounter or a bad date might not. In a country where dating can still be a risky endeavour for women, this guaranteed safety is a powerful motivator.
- For a woman terrified of her choices being discovered by her community, family, or even her own husband, this veil of secrecy is non-negotiable. Hiring a male escort or masseur for sexual massage, allows her to explore a part of herself without risking her public identity.
- By taking control of their sexual lives, many Indian women are asserting that their worth is not defined by their sexual history and that their desire is natural, not something to be ashamed of.
- After long hours managing careers and family responsibilities, the emotional work of dating—the swiping, the small talk, the potential for disappointment—can feel exhausting. An arrangement with a male escort or masseur is refreshingly transparent. It is a contract for companionship and pleasure without the need for emotional investment or the looming expectation of a committed relationship.
- This shift would not be possible without technology. Discreet metting opportunities, encrypted communication channels (whatsapp) and online space have created a relatively safe ecosystem for women to explore these options. They can research, read reviews, and make informed choices from the privacy of their phones
Ultimately, the increasing number of Indian women hiring male escorts is a telling indicator of a larger evolution. It is a story of economic independence granting personal freedom. It is about women refusing to wait for societal permission to experience pleasure and companionship. They are writing their own rules, one discreet encounter at a time, and in doing so, are redefining what it means to be a modern, independent woman